Have you ever apologized to your yoga teacher for not doing a pose right? Have you said sorry for missing a class, having an injury, or taking child’s pose from time to time?
Over the past few weeks several students have apologized to me for these reasons and others. I always feel confused in these interactions, unsure of why students feel compelled to explain themselves to me let alone apologize. I try and always respond with compassion, assuring them that no sorrys are necessary. Ever.
It's not even about the poses.
It is my goal to give you a space where you can be happy and free. It does not matter to me what shape your body takes in a posture, because I know how little the poses really mean. I'm also aware its a little harder to believe it when it comes from a person who finds the poses with such ease. TRUST ME. I say this to bring you comfort. The poses really aren't the most important part. Sure, you will feel good when you can completely open the spine in wheel pose but you'll feel just as good if not better when you can completely relax in savasana.
It's your practice. Come for you, not me.
There is no such thing as a right or wrong way to practice yoga. It's unique and different because each person who practices it is unique and different. I'm always baffaled by the number of students that will apologize to me during their practice! WHY?! You aren't doing anything you need to say sorry for! Let your practice be a reflection of you, and what your body needs. Like I've already said, it's not even about the poses! Use the time on your mat to find peace.
Realize you are enough.
So many of us (myself included) have been programmed to apologize for any behavior, word, action, or choice that we register as less than perfect or not good enough for the people around us (or ourselves). It's time to put an end to that. My friends I'm here to tell you right now YOU ARE ENOUGH. YOUR PRACTICE IS ENOUGH. YOUR JOB IS ENOUGH. YOUR HOUSE IN ENOUGH. YOUR CAR IS ENOUGH. EVERYTHING IN YOUR LIFE IS ENOUGH. YOU ARE ENOUGH.
Next time you want to apologize to your yoga teacher and other people in your life, I challenge you to pause and ask yourself- Why do you feel the need to apologize? What other feeling is this apology REALLY about? Rather than offering an unnecessary apology, try finding peace and acceptance within. Replace the apology with a simple word or phrase that cultivates love and compassion.
The more we nourish ourselves with loving-kindness, the less we will feel the need to apologize. Reserve apologies for when they are truly warranted and replace the overused word “sorry” with a one that lifts us up!
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